Believe in yourself in the power you have
to control your own life day by day.
Believe in the strength that you have deep inside
and your faith will help show you the way.
Believe in tomorrow and what it will bring,
let a hopeful heart carry you through
for things will work out if you trust and believe
there’s no limit to what you can do.
1. Don’t just love each other, like each other too.
2. Tell her/him why you love her/him often.
3. Be affectionate to her/him.
4. Say I love you to each other, at least once in every 24 hour period.
5. Tell your lover you are their love Genie and you will grant him/her three wishes. Things get quite interesting.
6. Make memories together.
7. Never forget that the simple things in life make life worth living.
8. The most cherished gifts are the ones that come from the heart, not the wallet. make gifts for her/him.
9. Have a night that is worth P1,000,000 pesos, but on a P500 pesos budget.
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
11. Instead of going out on a date, plan an evening at home, turn off the lights, burn scented candles, watch the sunset, then take a long walk to gaze at the stars.
12. Never, ever forget “holidays”! (The ones that the two of you make up too)
13. Do everything to make him/her happy.
14. Don’t evaluate or criticize your partner.
15. Defend and respect your partner.
16. Be there for the good and the bad times.
17. Find a nice secluded spot that is only yours and take her/him there every month.
18. Call from your vacation spot just to say Hi.
19. Always ask her/him how the day was. and listen!
20. Too much of a good thing can be bad.
21. Travel more than 1 hour out of town together.
22. Dance in the rain. (Even in your best outfit)
23. Watch the sunset together.
24. Have a candlelight dinner for two at least once a year.
25. Flirt in public. (Yes, that means holding hands)
26. Cook for each other.
27. Whisper sweet nothings.
28. Always close your eyes. Staring is rude.
29. Share your deep dark secrets with each other. (Not all)
30. Laugh together.
31. When you say “I’m sorry” look her/him in the eyes.
32. Don’t let little mistakes become big mistakes.
33. Do anything to impress her/him.
34. Go for a drive together just to get lost.
35. Make love.
36. Make sacrifices for each other.
37. ALWAYS be honest with each other.
38. Give each other pet names.
39. Tell her/him your fantasies.
40. Tell her/him what you like and don’t like.
41. Write a story about how you two met and fell in love and give it to her/him.
42. Hugs are the best medicines.
43. NEVER EVER cheat on her/him.
44. Play silly games.
45. Find out what’s special to her/him and do it.
46. Spend all night thinking of 50 sweet things to do for her/him.
47. Always have a notepad and pen or some stationary with you wherever you are. This way when you’re waiting in line you can write them a quick love note.
48. During weeks when you feel you haven’t had enough time with each other, send a bouquet of flowers or other gift to their work, home or school.
49. When you look into they eyes, tell her/him how you feel deep down and gently kiss their cheek.
50. Put a note in her purse telling her to meet you somewhere for lunch.
MUSIQ SOULCHILD LYRICS
Half Crazy
La la la la la la la la la la la la la la la la la
La la la la la la la la la la la la la la la la la
La la la la la la la la la la la la la la la la la
la la
Never thought that we would ever be more than friends
Now I’m all confused cause for you I have deeper feelings
We both thought it was cool to cross the line
And I was convinced it would be alright
Now things are strange, nothings the same
And really I just want my friend back
And my mind’s gone half crazy cause I can’t leave you alone (oh can’t get you out of my system)
And I’m wondering if it’s worth me holding on (holding on)
Said my mind’s gone half crazy cause I can’t leave you alone (can’t get you out of my system)
And I’m wondering if it’s worth me holding on (yeah)
I’d hate walk away from you as if this never existed
Cause when we kissed the moment after I looked at you different
Lately I gotta watch what I say
Cause you take things personally nowadays
You used to laugh now you get mad
Damn I just want my friend back
And my mind’s gone half crazy cause I can’t leave you alone (oh can’t get you out of my system)
And I’m wondering if it’s worth me holding on (holding on)
Said my mind’s gone half crazy cause I can’t leave you alone (can’t get you out of my system)
And I’m wondering if it’s worth me holding on
oh oh oh oh oh yeah
What happened to the one I used to know (oh yeah yeah)
The one I used to laugh and joke with
The one I used to tell all my secrets
We used to chill and be down for whatever whenever together yeah
And my mind’s gone half crazy (oh) cause I can’t leave you alone (I’m going half crazy baby)
And I’m wondering if it’s worth me (oh) holding on (over you)
Said my mind’s gone half crazy (yeah) cause I can’t leave you alone (and I just don’t know)
And I’m wondering if it’s worth me holding on (said I just don’t know what to do now)
we used to chill (yeah) we used to hang
we used to do we used to do some many things together (yeah)
yeah yeah yeah yeah
oh oh
yeah
oh oh oh
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
….one old love …..
she can imagine going back to…
and one who reminds her of how far she has come.
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
…enough money within her
control to move out and
rent a place of her own
even if she never wants to or needs to…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
… something perfect to wear if
the employer or date of her dreams
wants to see her in an hour…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
… a youth she’s content to leave behind…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
….a past juicy enough that
she’s looking forward to retelling it in her old age….
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
….a set of screwdrivers,
a cordless drill,
and a black lace bra…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
…one friend who always makes her laugh …
and one who lets her cry…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
….a good piece of furniture
not previously owned by anyone else in her family…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
….eight matching plates,
wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal
that will make her guests feel honored.
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
….a feeling of control over her destiny…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
…how to fall in love without losing herself…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
..how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without ruining the friendship…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
…when to try harder …
and when to walk away…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
..that she can’t change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips,
or the nature of her parents…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
….that her childhood may not have been perfect…
but its over…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…..
…what she would and wouldn’t do for love or more…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
…how to live alone…
even if she doesn’t like it…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
…who she can trust,
who she can’t,
and why she shouldn’t take it personally…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
…where to go…
be it to her best friend’s kitchen table…
or a charming inn in the woods…
when her soul needs soothing…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
… what she can and can’t accomplish
in a day…a month…and a year…
"People say what we are all seeking is the meaning of life…
I think what we’re really seeking is the experience of being alive…"
We Belong
Toni Gonzaga
I’ve tried to tell you
So many times this feelings of mine
But it’s not that easy
Letting you know
How i love you so
Complete me, you complete me
I’ve never felt this way
Complete me, you complete me
Like words and melody
Don’t you know that we both belong, baby
Don’t you know that we will last forever
Don’t you know that we both belong
I knew it from the start
Hoping that someday
For that hello, just a simple hello
And maybe tomorrow
I’m the reason you’ll smile
And you make my day
- repeat -
don’t you know that we both belong, baby
Don’t you know that we will last forever
Don’t you know that we both belong
I knew it from the start
We belong
Bridge:
Together, youre my shelter in the pouring rain
I just hope that you will see
You and me we belong
- repeat -
Do more than exist. Live.
Do more than hear. Listen.
Do more than agree. Cooperate.
Do more than talk. Communicate.
Do more than grow. Bloom.
Do more than spend. Invest.
Do more than think. Create.
Do more than work. Excel.
Do more than share. Give.
Do more than decide. Discern.
Do more than consider. Commit.
Do more than forgive. Forget.
Do more than help. Serve.
Do more than coexist. Reconcile.
Do more than sing. Worship.
Do more than think. Plan.
Do more than dream. Do.
Do more than see. Perceive.
Do more than read. Apply.
Do more than receive. Reciprocate.
Do more than choose. Focus.
Do more than wish. Believe.
Do more than advise. Help.
Do more than speak. Impact.
Do more than encourage. Inspire.
Do more than add. Multiply.
Do more than change. Improve.
Do more than reach. Stretch.
Do more than ponder. Pray.
If you are reading this article it is either because you are currently in a long distance relationship or you are thinking of beginning one. If you are already involved in a romantic entanglement with a “geographically undesirable”, perhaps you are thinking of cutting them loose? Before you cast the final vote to boot your love to the curb let me share with you some secrets I have discovered on how to make a long distance relationship work.
My viewpoint like many romantics was, “love can and will conquer all.” Looking back now I realize while both our intentions were good, a solid and mutually respectful relationship needs to be built on something more. This is not to imply in any way a long distance relationship can’t work After all I did title this “ How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work!” I just simply want to point out a few pitfalls to avoid, suggest a good time to bail out if it’s not working and offer a helping hand to those of you about to “dive” in.
Making the Decision to Date Long Distance
If you are lucky enough to find someone geographically desirable, count your blessings! For those of us not in that “club” I would suggest that you consider whether the relationship is really that important for you to commit your time and effort. If the answer is no, then move on now! If the answer comes up “I just can’t imagine spending my life with anyone else” then read on.
Mutual Commitment
I can not emphasize how important it is that both of you are committed to making this work. It is very easy when things are exciting and new to promise to call every day or set up plans to meet every month. The true test is not in the promises one makes, but in their actions. So often, in long distnace relationship, people are well intentioned. In the beginning the calls are made, the trips are planned, the e-mail comes and then suddenly excuses are made and contact becomes less and less frequent. Ask yourself and your significant other if the two of you are honest about your level of commitment? Arrange plans to talk, visit, e-mail etc. Make your expectations clear. If contact is becoming less frequent speak openly and honestly before jumping to conclusions. People get tired, have other commitments, emergencies do happen etc. Once or twice does not mean the relationship is over! If you speak with your significant other in a way that is non defensive you are much more likely to get a straight and truthful answer. If a pattern of excuses continues for too long it would be best to bail out. “When do you know if it is too long?” you ask Your intuition will tell you, “ Hey, I think that was a load of you know what he/she just gave me.” Remember, the other person’s level of commitment should match yours. If you are trying to build a relationship on partial truths and find yourself always making excuses for why he didn’t call, bless him and send him packing.
Mutual Trust
Trust never comes easy, but in a long distance relationship it takes work. Both of you need to feel secure with all that distance between you. Part of that includes keeping your partner informed about what’s happening in your life. Don’t shut your significant other out and assume they couldn’t possibly care less about your family, friends and experiences. They want and need to know that your opinion matters and that you have told your friends that you are in a loving, caring and committed relationship.
Daily e-mails are a great way to keep them in the loop. Try leaving a message on his or her voice mail “Hi honey, going to the game with the gang just called to say I’m thinking about you.”
Keeping In Touch
I can not over emphasize how important it is to touch base with your loved one in some small way. I would suggest at least several times a week you make contact. Send gifts, cards, e-mails, phone calls, in person visits, old fashioned letter writing, whatever you can do to keep it going. Do not assume that letting days, weeks or even long periods of time go by without an explanation will not bother your partner. You may feel secure because you know you are not doing anything wrong, but your partner undoubtedly will need the assurance at some point.
Planning for the Future
There comes a time in every relationship when you have to make plans for the future. If this relationship is to move forward then the two of you will have to decide where to live. Will you move in together? Will you get married? Do you simply want to live closer to see how it goes? Obviously one or the other will have to leave their job, family and friends behind for this to happen. In my relationship, like so many others this is where it fell apart.
Have you ever found yourself in a relationship that was less than you expected? Or maybe you know of a friend or family member has become involved with someone who did not treat them appropriately and may have even been abusive. This is an all too common situation that can happen when searching for that right person. Many times these individuals do not show their true colors until later on in the relationship when intimacy has been established, thus making them harder to leave. Unfortunately, I have known of friends and family members who never intended to get involved with someone of that nature, yet it can happen to anyone, especially if one is not careful. Fortunately, there are warning signs, which can signal that this individual is not healthy and good for you. As you search for that special person, keep this list handy.
Signs and Characteristics of an Unhealthy Relationship
· He/She is jealous of your close friends, family members and all other men/women.
· Moody, unpredictable. Moods are extreme or change quickly.
· Selfish. Cares more about his/her needs and wants than yours. (Only concerned with “I”, instead of “we”).
· After the initial first or second date, doesn’t want to take you out again, just wants to stay in and watch movies/ have sex.
· Pushes intimacy before you are ready or is sexually aggressive.
· He/she starts planning your future right away.
· He/she hates his/her mother or father and treats him/her badly.
· He/she always wants your undivided attention.
· He/she must always be in charge.
· He/she always has to win.
· He/she always asks where you went and whom you saw.
· He/she can’t take criticism and always justifies his/her actions.
· Only calls you when he/she is drunk (a booty call) or doesn’t ask you out ahead of time.
· Uses you for sex, but doesn’t take you out on dates.
· Never has money, expects you to pay for everything.
· Has a bad or violent temper (especially when he/she doesn’t get his or her way).
· Isolates you from friends and family.
· Brings you down by criticizing you or putting you down (verbal abuse).
· Blames you for his/her problems or things that aren’t your fault. Blames you for everything that goes wrong in his/her life.
· Too needy or dependent upon you.
· Too demanding or unrealistic expectations. Expects you to be his/her “Slave, Maid or Mother/Father-figure”. May even expect so much of you that you are unable to take good care of yourself.
· Is Manipulative/controlling. Tries to influence you to do things you don’t feel comfortable doing like missing work or breaking the law.
· He/she often says you don’t know what you are talking about.
· He/she makes you feel like you are not good enough.
· He/She withdraws his/her love or approval as punishment.
· Doesn’t care about your feelings or makes you feel bad for having feelings.
· Is secretive about his/her past (may be an ex-convict, pedophile, con-artist or sex-offender).
· Has had multiple failed relationships.
· Cannot keep a job.
· Flirts with other men/woman when you are with her/him.
· Cheats on you or insists upon having or hiding relationships with other men/women from you.
· Lets you know up front that he/or she is not interested in marrying you, but wants a sexual relationship anyway.
· Brings out the worst in you.
· Not trust worthy. Takes/steals from you/ uses you. Takes more than he/she gives back.
· Asks you for money, credit cards, loans or other financial assistance too early on in the relationship.
· Pushes you, holds you down or hits you (physically abusive).
· Influences you to compromise core goals, morals or values.
· Won’t talk to you about the relationship or whatever you may want to discuss, always avoids serious conversations.
· Judge-mental of your life and struggles, although has his/her own share of problems.
· Emotionally distant or goes to someone else to get emotional support. Avoids closeness instead of connecting (intimacy).
· Doesn’t follow through with promises. Breaks them all of the time.
· Always angry for something you did or didn’t do.
· You find yourself apologizing to others for them or making excuses for them.
· You give them chance after chance.
· You end up paying for their sins or forgetfulness.
· You resent them or nag them.
· He/she is addicted to sex, drugs, alcohol, gambling, etc.
· Is unable to admit they have weaknesses. They believe they are perfect instead of admitting their faults.
· Is defensive instead of open to feedback.
· Is self-righteous vs. humble.
· Only apologize, but never change their behavior.
· Avoids working on their problems instead of dealing with them
· Demands trust instead of earning it.
· Blames others instead of taking responsibility for their lives.
· Lies instead of telling the truth.
· Is stagnant instead of growing.
· Stays in parent/child roles instead of treating you like and equal.
· Gossips instead of keeping secrets.
· Is unstable over time instead of consistent.
· Flatters you instead of confronting you.
· Condemns you instead of forgiving you.
· He threatens you with harm or destroys your property.
· You feel like you are always walking on “egg shells” when he/she is around.
Signs of a Healthy Relationship
· Communication is open and spontaneous (including listening).
· Rules/boundaries are clear and explicit, yet allows flexibility.
· Individuality, freedom and personal identity is enhanced.
· Each enjoys doing things for self, as well as for the other.
· Play, humor, and having fun together is commonplace.
· Each does not attempt to “fix” or control the other.
· Acceptance of self and other (for real selves).
· Assertiveness: feelings and needs are expressed.
· Humility: able to let go of the need to “be right”.
· Self confidence and security in own worth.
· Conflict is faced directly and resolved.
· Openness to constructive feedback.
· Each is trustful of the other.
· Balance of giving and receiving.
· Negotiations are fair and democratic.
· Tolerance: forgiveness of self and other.
· Mistakes are accepted and learned from.
· Willingness to take risks and be vulnerable.
· Other meaningful relationships and interests exist.
· Each can enjoy being alone and privacy is respected.
· Personal growth, change and exploration is encouraged.
· Continuity and consistency is present in the commitment.
· Balance of oneness (closeness) and separation from each other.
· Responsibility for own behaviors and happiness (not blaming other).
In the Book Safe People, by Cloud &Townsend, the subject of healthy relationships is covered extensively. The main components of a good relationship listed there are:
· Draws us closer to God.
· Draws us closer to others.
· Helps us become the real person God created us to be (brings out the best in us).
· They are able to connect with us in a way that we know that they are present with us.
· They love and accept you just as you are, which allows growth.
· Allows us to speak the truth about our faults (honestly) to one another without fear of condemnation.
